October 2002
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Love at First Sight
By Candace W., St. Alban's, NL

Love at first sight, a familiar phrase for those caught up in the romantic world. To me, this phrase is pure, unrealistic silliness. Oh, I believe there are many ways to fall in love, but I don't believe a person can fall in love by simply someone's appearance.

Quote the ogre from the popular movie Shrek, "Ogres are like onions, onions have layers." (Except think of the ogre as a person.) It's true, people have layers too, a lifetime of them. You cannot spend even a week with a person and learn everything about them. The loving, kind, nurturing individual you once knew could easily turn into a critical, disagreeable monster overnight, and it has happened.

If someone were to look at me and say, "Wow, she's beautiful! I'm in love!", I would have to assume they were a bit nutty. Even if I were a ritzy super-model, (whom I should not compare myself to) I would still think them a little insane. In my opinion, people who chose to do this are very shallow, just because by being attracted to someone's appearance they can assume this person has what it takes to be in a committed, loving relationship. For all you know, you could be feasting your eyes upon the next transvestite murderer to hit the headlines. It may be a little far fetched, but true. Now, don't go around and avoid people who you believe are strange and inhuman, some of the oddest people make the best of friends.

The main point in this is that beauty really is only skin deep. I know I'm concluding with a cliche, but there's really no other simple way to put it. Sure, it helps to have an attractive partner, but who wants some gorgeous person with an incredibly ugly personality? You can bring them out and show them off, but that's about as good as it gets. Imagine spending a lifetime with an annoying, demanding, whiny person. (Unless, of course, you're into that kind of thing.) Then imagine spending a lifetime with someone of lesser attractiveness, but who has the ability to keep you in awe no matter what they do, and also always remains in awe of you. In the end, it's a much better deal.

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