These are really good things to think about. But are they true? No. I think we could improve on forgiveness as a community. Here are some of the times I forgave or others forgave me.
The Sock War
When we got to my house we decided to go on the trampoline. We both ran outside and left our socks inside on the floor by the door. My dog started chewing them and got them mixed up. When we came back in I picked up the sock I thought was mine. Jen started to complain. ‘Those are mine” she said. I said, “No, they’re mine.” “What are you talking about?” “They are mine”. We both had tears in our eyes by now.
Finally, we forgot about the socks. Later we started at it again. “They are mine”. “No, these ones are yours, those are mine!” Then we argued ourselves to sleep.
In the morning I woke up early to get the socks and stuff them in my drawer. I forgot to put the other socks away. So Jen saw the socks and said, “Hey, where are my socks?” Correcting her, I said, “My socks are in my drawer.” Jen said she would prove to me she had an identical pair. So we took them to Jen’s house. She put MY socks in her drawer. Making an excuse she said, “My 5 pairs are in the wash”. Then I told her mom and she forgave me. Guess who got the socks....ME!
We are not arguing about the socks anymore, but next time she might get the socks. We are still friends today. That incident could have made us enemies. But since she forgave me, we remain friends.
I said, “I can’t eat all this”. She replied, “if it’s in your bowl, you eat it”.
After gobbling about half of the overflowing bowl I told her again. “This is too much. I can’t eat it all”.
Nasty words came out of her mouth, “Eat it or else” she said.
Slowly I finished the last bite. She then said, “now go downstairs and play.” I walked down about 6 steps. When I reach the landing, I puked. I told Emily’s mom. She said that she had phone my mom and asked, “What should I do?” She said me that my mom told her that she should make me clean it all up. So I grabbed the cloth. I glared at her as she grinned. I had to clean it up. Somehow that didn’t sound right to me. So I did as I was told and cleaned it all up.
When I got home I asked my mom, “Did our babysitter phone you today?” She stated, “No”. Emily’s mom had lied and enjoyed every minute of it. All so she would not have to clean up it up.
It took me a while but I finally forgave her. I still do not understand why she did that but, the good thing is I forgave her. I am happy I did because not forgiving others only hurts me. Forgiving and letting go is healthy for my body and mind.
The Hardest Part